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Rory McIIroy and Caroline Wozniacki at the time of their engagement. Photo: Andrew Redington/Getty Images.

Rory McIIroy and Caroline Wozniacki at the time of their engagement. Photo: Andrew Redington/Getty Images.

Rory McIIroy and Caroline Wozniacki at the time of their engagement. Photo: Andrew Redington/Getty Images.

DANISH tennis star Caroline Wozniacki seems determined to show the world that she is moving on after her split from golfer Rory McIlroy.

The day after her former fiancé won the BMW PGA Championship, she shared photos online of her partying in Paris with would-be bridesmaid Serena Williams and other pals.

It was no coincidence that the first picture she chose to post since the decision to end their engagement was one of her surrounded by her loyal and stalwart girlfriends.

As any broken-hearted woman knows, the sisterhood will always get you through a difficult breakup.

When the chips are down, close friends will swoop in, form a ring of steel around you and implement a plan of action, all with lightning speed.

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Cardinal rule number one is to go out on the town, looking glossy and gorgeous, to show your ex what he’s missing.

That’s exactly what Kate Middleton did when William broke up with her, for example. She forced herself to appear as if she was having fun to prove to William that she was just fine without him.

In these days of social media, Caroline doesn’t need to be papped to show Rory that she’s doing OK - one carefully posed picture on Twitter suffices.

Of course, putting on a brave face and holding your head up high in public is one thing, but it can be very different behind closed doors.

That’s where your best friends really come into their own. They’ll hold your hand and listen to you rant and sob for hours on end. They’ll dissuade you from drunkenly calling your ex in the middle of the night.

They’ll even make a dartboard from his face to make you laugh. Basically, they’ll do anything and everything to cheer you up and help you heal, selflessly putting your welfare before their own for as long as it takes.

A recent TV ad captures this female approach to helping a friend in need perfectly. In the ad, a girl sits outside a rock concert.

Instead of going in to enjoy the gig of a lifetime, she consoles her jilted friend on the phone, missing it entirely. The men in my life reacted to this ad with a roll of the eyes and a snort of derision.

In the same situation, they said they’d call a mate back after the show, but they wouldn’t contemplate actually skipping it. But most women I know wouldn’t think twice about making this sacrifice if required, because they’re certain that their best friends would do the same for them if the need arose.

The truth is, women generally deal with breakups differently to men. Most girls like to talk and thrash it all out in an almost symbolic washing that man right out of our hair’ way.

Guys, on the other hand, are often far too macho (or plain reluctant) to talk about their deepest feelings like this. It’s like that episode of Friends when Chandler split up with a girlfriend and Joey explained the three distinct male phases of recovery. The first is the sweat pants’ phase, where a man will sit, unwashed, staring into space.

The second is the getting drunk and going to a strip club’ phase. This, in turn, leads directly to phase three - where a man can start to imagine himself with another woman.

If only it was so simple in the real world.

The truth is, breaking up is hard to do, for both sexes. When you are part of a very public couple and your split is being commented on around the world, it must be ten times harder still.

For his sake, I hope that, like Caroline, Rory has a close band of friends to help him through this tough time because, as we girls know, it really is good to talk.


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