My granny would be furious, but I kinda warmed to 'Big Man'
Some years ago, when I was a political researcher at the BBC, I was given the task I had been dreading for quite a while; booking Ian Paisley for an appearance on our politics show.
I had been brought up to believe that he was one of the worst bigots in the world, the heir to the Black and Tans (whose wickedness my nan had told me about), thoroughly mad and bad.
As I started to watch the TV news and read newspapers during the worst of the Troubles in the 1970s, there was ample evidence for the O'Grady household's belief that he was a monster.
From the Pope down, he hated Catholics, especially Irish ones. We hated him back.
He fought for the sectarian, gerrymandered old Stormont regime, under which no Catholic could get a decent job and certainly not one in government: apartheid by religion rather than race (though the first was a handy proxy for the second).
Paisley was an Orangeman, of an especially deep hue, and our friends in the North of Ireland told us of the petty cruelties and minor acts of terrorism those thugs in sashes and bowler hats used to go in for when marching through Catholic areas, before the real Troubles started.
Tearing front doors out was apparently a favourite hobby on 12 July, Orangeman's Day.
So 20 years later I had to call the monster up in his office in the Commons. Unfortunately his secretary didn't answer. It was him.
When I announced my name, I was amazed by the massive charm I was confronted with. He got chatty. "What part of Ireland… Co Mayo?... what a beautiful place."
He was nice. He agreed to come on the telly. His politics still appalled me, and I wondered whether he had actually ever been to Co Mayo (his personal safety could not be guaranteed ), but it gave me some pause for thought.
It took many more years for him to use the authority he had built up in the Unionist community for the good of Ireland, north and south.
I still don't understand why he did what he did, getting into bed with the IRA, but without Paisley there would have been no peace in Ireland. In that sense he was a great statesman.
Like Mandela and FW de Klerk, like Gorbachev, like Gerry Adams and Martin McGuinness, he led his people to a better place.