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'It's very frustrating being asked about baby plans all the time', says Lottie

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Lottie Ryan as she was announced as brand ambassador for Fertility Awareness Week, which
ends on Monday

Lottie Ryan as she was announced as brand ambassador for Fertility Awareness Week, which ends on Monday

Lottie Ryan as she was announced as brand ambassador for Fertility Awareness Week, which ends on Monday

RTE's Lottie Ryan said she wishes that people would be more sensitive when it comes to asking women about their fertility or plans to start a family.

The 2FM presenter (34) got married three years ago to long-term partner Fabio Aprile and said she has been left shocked at how many people have asked her when she hopes to have a baby.

"I am at a certain age where I'm starting to really have to think about fertility and I find it very frustrating to have people constantly asking me about it," she told the Herald.

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"People don't mean to be cruel or hurt your feelings, but people may need to think before they speak about these things."

It's little things like "When are you going to start a family?" or "Are you just having the one?" Saying that to someone that could be struggling could be very hurtful.

"It leaves me speechless sometimes that people can be that insensitive and parents and families need to not be asking questions and giving advice. They think they're helping but it just doesn't help.

"I will now never ask someone unless they brought it up with me. I have a few friends who've had miscarriages and only now in my 30s I'm realising how common that is."

Lottie said she was left reeling after saying on her InstaStories how tired she was after going back to the 2FM studio at Montrose for the first time a few weeks ago.

"I got a slew of people sending me baby face emojis, just from that one comment. I was like 'You have no idea what's going on in my life between me and my husband or what we have or haven't got planned'. I think it's crazy that people think it's OK to say that to somebody.

"Honestly, from the moment I got married three years ago, I've had people asking me about the baby thing. When I got Dancing With The Stars, one or two people said to me, 'Oh it will be another four months now before you get pregnant', as in it won't be until after the show."

She said people needed to be more considered with their words and accept it's a deeply personal issue.

The DWTS winner has joined up with Sims IVF and Rotunda IV for Fertility Awareness Week as the ambassador for its #BeKindWithYourWords campaign.

A survey commissioned for the campaign found that over 86pc of 600 female respondents had experienced a hurtful comment about their fertility or family status.

Lottie said that she "doesn't have a plan" when it comes to the idea of starting a family, but that she would like to make sure her health was good if it was an option she wanted to explore.

She said that it could often be a taboo subject so wanted to speak out to try to destigmatise the issue.