Graham Dwyer trial: ‘You have this hold over me that terrifies me’ – text sent on day Elaine went missing
ELAINE O’Hara is alleged to have texted Graham Dwyer on the day she disappeared saying: “Did you know sir that I’m scared of you... you have this hold over me that terrifies me.”
The prosecution in his murder trial also alleges that he sent her a text back, telling her: “Do not fear death.”
The messages read to the jury were among thousands the prosecution maintains were exchanged between Mr Dwyer and Ms O’Hara before she went missing.
In another earlier text exchange on different phones, the accused was alleged to have said: “No one was ever caught for Raonaid Murray or the homeless woman in the Phoenix Park.”
He was also alleged to have told Ms O’Hara he had found a “pretty attractive young female estate agent” who he could rape before stabbing.
Mr Dwyer (42), an architect of Kerrymount Close, Foxrock, is pleading not guilty to the murder of Ms O’Hara (36), a childcare assistant, at Killakee, Rathfarnham on August 22, 2012.
Her remains were found by a dog walker in undergrowth in the Dublin mountains on September 13, 2013.
The prosecution maintains Mr Dwyer killed her for his own sexual gratification.
Sean Guerin SC read out dozens of the messages between the number 086 1759076 he alleged was used by Mr Dwyer and 086 1759151, a number he maintains was used by Ms O’Hara, in August 2012.
Both of these phones were found at the bottom of Vartry reservoir in Wicklow in 2013 and had only each other’s numbers saved in their contacts as “mstr” and “slv”. The prosecution maintains these are abbreviations of “Master” and “Slave”.
Mr Guerin said on August 20, 2012, the “Master” texted the “Slave”: “What kind of punishment would you like? Choices are hard anal with stabbing and choking. Whipping till bleeding. Chained overnight in forest. Choked unconscious.”
He told her he wanted to do it outdoor and she replied: “Please sir, indoors... I’m afraid if outdoors you might kill me.”
On August 21, 2012 – the day before Ms O’Hara was discharged from a mental health hospital and went missing, he texted her: “You must be punished for trying to kill yourself without me and for being unavailable for so long ... You are my slave but I need to be serving me not stuck in hospital.”
He said he would “get into trouble if I don’t do it at this stage”.
“What do u mean?” she replied. “How could you get into trouble? It’s suicide. It’s f****ing suicide... No one will look into it.”
Later, he texted her: “It’s up to me and you have a big punishment coming up, getting knifed in the guts.”
He told her they wouldn’t get caught outdoors but she said: “I’m not leaving my apartment. You will have to drag me out.”
“You will do what you are f***ing told. I want outdoor play and you are going to follow instructions or I will double punishment or hang you.”
“I found a really really remote place,” he said. “No one will find us.”
He told her she had to be naked as he did not want blood on her clothes.
“Now I’m terrified!” she texted, and he replied: “Trust me it will be exciting.”
On the day she went missing, the “Slave” texted: “This place although a pain in the ass at times is safe and because I know what’s coming I don’t want to leave.”
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“When you say you know what’s coming next what do you mean?” he asked.
“Well tonight and the talk about killing and stuff but at the mo mainly tonight, I’m scared.”
“Did you know sir that I’m scared of you. You have this hold over me that terrifies me,” she said.
“That’s good for you to feel owned and that your life is in my hands every time you submit to me. I love that, thank you. Do not fear death,” he said.
“Please don’t mention killing for a while until I settle back to life,” she texted and he replied: “Tonight’s punishment will be like me pretending to do someone for real ok?”
His instructions later were for her to have a bath... no underwear not even a bra... loose clothes, footwear for mud. “Make sure you are fed and take a pain killer.You will be in a lot of pain later and next few days,” he said.
“It’s going to be that bad?” she asked and he texted: “You will have stab wounds, you know the drill. Last few did not bleed. These will.”
He then told her to park at Shanganagh Cemetery at 5.30pm, leave her iPhone at home, just bring “slave phone and keys” and she would get further instructions there.
“Sir are we doing this if it’s raining? Are you coming back to my place? I need to clean, it’s dirty,” she said.
“Yes if it’s raining. No I won’t be back at your place, he replied.
“No offence sir, but do we have to do it in rain. It’s cold,” she asked.
“Don’t worry, it’s never as bad as u think it’s going to be,” he replied.
He then told her to “empty youself”, telling her: “You are property and a piece of slave meat. Your only job is to serve.”
She asked if she could wear socks with runners and bring her inhaler and said she didn’t have time to eat.
He told her she would be back at her car at about 8pm, adding: “More painful getting stabbed on empty stomach, suit yourself. See you in a bit. x”
At 5.22pm, she said: “Here Sir” and he told her to “take only keys and Slave phone. Make your way on foot to park next door and text me in middle.”
“Please let me take my inhaler sir,” she texted.
“OK,” he said, and: “cross railway bridge in to next park near cliffs.
“I’m lost I’m in football field now,” she said.
“Look for railway footbridge near footpath, he replied and she texted: “Here now, where’s park?”
“Cross bridge, head for opposite end of park near steps to sea,” he said.
“Yes, Steps here,” she replied.
“Go down to shore and wait,” was the last message.
The trial continues.