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Saturday 16 December 2017

The law is a slap in the face for us

Dil Wickremasinghe and Anne Marie Toole (pictured below) got engaged in November 2010 and are planning their future and the children they hope to have. But talk of a family causes their happy demeanour to fade. Under the current legislation, only one of the partners is recognised as the parent.

Dil (38), originally from Italy, has been living in Ireland for the past 12 years. She met Anne Marie (31) from Meath two years ago and their relationship blossomed.

Within six months they were engaged after Dil proposed on Anne Marie's 30th birthday in November 2010.

"I proposed on Dun Laoghaire pier because that's where I first told her I loved her. She had been dropping hints left, right and centre," she laughs.

The pair moved in together after they got engaged. The couple have decided they are not going to take up a Civil Partnership.

"Some people are happy with Civil Partnership but if you want it all, the full picture with kids, it doesn't go far enough.

"We just feel if too many of us take up this option it takes the pressure off our leaders to fix the problems with it. They didn't address the issue of children at all," she adds.

Dil had a difficult relationship with her parents and was disowned when she told them she was gay.

"I'm the older of the two of us so I'd like to have our first child. But if anything were to happen to me, our child could be taken into care or my family could take the child from Anne Marie. But even day-to-day it will affect us. Anne Marie won't be able to take our child to hospital if he or she needed medical attention because she's not recognised as a parent," says Dil.

"That's where we're at and it is delaying our plans. I'm 38 and my biological clock is ticking. It's just a slap in the face for same-sex couples," she adds.

>Caroline Crawford

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