Five tips to get mojo back
1> RECOGNISE THAT IT’S NORMAL
Around 20pc of the Irish population are there with you. There’s not something wrong with you; you’re not deficient as a man in any way. If you believe this, it becomes a self-fulfiling prophecy.
Walk, jog, cycle — do whatever you can to get fitter. A night with wine and pizza in front of the television is not romantic, because no endorphins are being released. Instead, you’re in a sedated state, which won’t lead to sex. All you will want to do is sleep when you go to bed.
3> DON’T BELIEVE PORNOGRAPHY
The internet has brought pornography into all our homes. This is leading us to believe that the people in porn movies and the activities they get up to are real. Don’t believe the lie of pornography. Healthy sex is two people showing how much they love each other and experiencing love in the process.
4> TALK ABOUT SEX
Even though talking about your sex life with your partner or friends can be embarrassing or seem dangerous, only by communicating about our problems can we sort them out. Even the simple act of revealing that you are upset about your loss of libido can have a positive effect.
5> GET PROFESSIONAL HELP
If you can’t muster up the courage to talk to your partner or somebody else in your life, see a sex therapist. Some 60pc of sex problems when presented to sex therapists are related to self-esteem or issues in the relationship which have not been addressed. Taking Viagra is not enough. Get somebody to help you talk about what’s happening in your sex life to begin with.