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Wednesday 15 August 2018

Dear Rosanna: Will he still fancy me without my make-up?

ROSANNA SAYS:

My boyfriend has never seen me without make-up on. I always make sure to have a little mascara or eyeliner or blusher on going to bed, and try to be up before him in the morning.

Dear Rosanna,

I don't mind going make-up free in the gym or swimming pool, but only with my friends. I'm afraid my boyfriend won't fancy me if he sees how I look for real. I am thinking of getting permanent make-up, and having my eyebrows and lip liner tattooed on, what do you think?

ROSANNA SAYS:

If there's one thing I've learnt about men, it's that they like their girlfriends fresh-faced and make-up free! My boyfriend can't stand it when I have thick globs of sticky lipgloss on.

Dear Rosanna,

It is less than a year since my husband left me. It was a short marriage, he left me for another woman and we are both in our early 30s. We are yet to get divorced so he can't marry her but I am terrified that he will move in with his new woman. I cannot sleep at night thinking I can be so easily replaced, and it is stopping me meeting someone new.

ROSANNA SAYS:

This must be an extraordinarily difficult situation for you, and I completely sympathise with your struggle to accept that your relationship is over. Your inability to bring closure to it is damaging you emotionally and will also begin to affect your health if you're continuously finding it hard to sleep.

The only way you can move forward is to take those important steps to acceptance. But please deal with it thoroughly rather than burying it at the back of your mind. I'd advise you to avail of professional support if possible, as well as speaking in confidence to close family or friends.

It would be ideal for you to meet somebody new to give you renewed hope and focus, but it's crucial for you to be in a positive frame of mind for it to have any chance of success. At this point there is little you can do to alter your husband's choices and, like anybody, he deserves every chance of happiness too. You're still young so there is plenty of opportunity for you, and with time, support and positive focus, I believe you will successfully move on with your life and meet somebody new.

Dear Rosanna,

I went on a diet after Christmas, and while I am sticking to cutting back on junk food and exercising more, I am finding that I am spending a lot more money on treats like manicures and jewellery. I can't afford this, how can I stop this compulsive spending?

ROSANNA SAYS:

Firstly, congratulations on making the decision to lead a healthier life. However, it sounds as if you have substituted one indulgence for another. The rush of feel-good endorphins gained from eating sugary and fatty foods has been replaced by the happy feeling you get from treating yourself to these fairly unnecessary beauty treatments and gifts.

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