Q An ex-boyfriend is a little too friendly over three years later -- nothing physical, but he keeps calling for no good reason and always asks to be included in my social outings. It's kind of hard to say no.
A It sounds like this ex may be carrying a torch for you. Or else he's a shy and lonely boy. If he's hanging around with you and your friends try and make sure there are plenty of unattached females in the group. After a while, he may become attracted to one of them and lose his need to hang around you. On the other hand, you could just tell him to swan off -- like: "I'm going out with my mates and, sorry you're not part of the package." Some people do need this sort of jolt unfortunately.