Monday 24 October 2016

Dad's the word as it's almost time to praise the special men in our lives

Last year the social media campaign #endfathersday gained a little traction. Apparently joyless, dangerous feminists were trying to pull the plug on a day that celebrates daddies.

Fox News (of course ) carried a 'for and against' segment with those on the 'end father's day' side arguing that the patriarchy has enough as it is.

Meanwhile, those on the 'keep father's day' side were saying feminists were misandrists (man haters) who would stop at nothing until men were wiped out entirely.

The campaign - of course - was a wind up, which was obvious to most people except our friends at Fox, who freaked out. Who would want to get rid of the day that says 'Thanks for being a great Dad?' to fathers.


I love Father's Day as much as I love Mother's Day. It reminds me of the positive impact men have had in my life and in the lives of my kids.

They're reminded of the important role that their Dad plays in their lives as a role model, care giver, provider, protector, supporter, friend and the dozens of other roles he plays. (In my house, to my shame, there's actually a very sexist division of labour and roles. He 'fixes' things more than I do. I clean more than he does.)

Dads can be their children's greatest cheerleaders. They can empower their kids and give them wings. They can be supportive, but gentle as well as strong.

Of course, children can succeed and be happy without dads in their lives. But the dads who support the efforts of their children and who encourage their daughters to speak up, to have a voice, to make a contribution and to be the best they can be, are as important for their kids as their mama bears.

Most dads aren't what they used to be. Their roles have evolved in the same way that women's roles have.

In the last 50 years, fathers have taken on more child care and housework. They've literally become more hands on. More touchy feely. More inclined to talk and brag and bore people about their kids. More emotionally engaged with them.

I did hear PJ Mara on radio, who became a dad at 71 in 2013, say he wouldn't change a nappy. He is though, I think, an exception. My own dad, who's older, didn't consider it beneath him to change my little fella's nappy in the past.


As this Father's Day approaches on Sunday, a clever campaign from Dove shows real life footage of men finding out if they're going to be dads. Some men find out when their other halves pass them a positive pregnancy test.

Others get presents with baby clothes or greeting cards with announcements written inside. Several of the men are so overwhelmed by the exciting pregnancy news that they break out in tears.

The message, of course, is that showing you care is a sign of a man's real strength.

I hope this Father's Day we make our dads feel relevant, valued and loved.

Happy Father's Day to all the daddies, stepdads and granddads who are their son's and grandson's first heroes and their daughter and granddaughter's first loves.

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