Why presume that all girls dream of a white gown?
Tuesday December 01 2009
Robbie Williams has (supposedly) taken himself off the market by proposing to his long-term girlfriend Ayda Field during a radio interview in Australia. Sigh.
The 'committed bachelor' won't confirm or deny the reports and so is determined to keep the gals dangling. And good luck to him. But three days later and a new, more interesting, debate has emerged from the ashes of Williams' 'is it real or is it a stunt?' proposal.
Choice headlines include real gems such as 'Why would any man want to end his bachelor days?' The real question for this confirmed bachelorette, though, is why are females precluded from these kind of statements/ questions? At the end of the day, we're not all desperate to take a trip down the aisle and have himself move in with us.
Most definitely not.
Granted, those of us of a certain age who haven't suffered massive betrayal or heartbreak will more than likely have a cave man/woman desire to tick all the 'normal' boxes. Fall in love, marry, create home, have children etc. But the older you get, and I think the correct term is the 'more set in your ways that you become', then the trickier it is to let someone into your life full-time.
I hold my hands up on this front. And the only thing that shocks people about this statement is that I am a girl. Not a single girl. Just a girl who doesn't dream of a white dress and co-habiting.
A friend told me a few days ago that I am too young to be thinking like this but I like my life just the way it is. I've never had a bloke dump on me from a height (comes from having excellent taste in men) so it's not a protective instinct. Everyday I just think to myself 'this is as good as it gets'. So why would I want to change it all?
Conversely I still like to see others settling down and taking the big step that I'm not sure I'll ever be ready for. And the good news for Ayda is that it's definitely not too late for Robbie just yet.
- Dee O'Keeffe
