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Wednesday 27 August 2014

26 ways to keep your relationship special

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, Beyonce and Jay-Z, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie -- happy Hollywood couples seem to have secrets of their own when it comes to surviving the pressures of fame.

It probably involves making a lot of time for each other, something which Dublin-based motivational speaker Brian Colbert encourages couples to do in his just-published book, From Ordinary to Extraordinary: How To Live an Exceptional Life.

"Even if you are lucky enough to have a romantic relationship that is healthy and fulfilling, you should still do some work on it. The tips below are sure to help your relationship thrive," says Colbert.

Actively work towards keeping your partner happy.

Invest time in the relationship. Create time exclusively for your partner -- at least twice a week.

Commit to the relationship. Be a couple and integrate fully, while remaining true to yourself.

Remember who you are, and be who you are.

Do lots together, from the mundane to special.

Understand your partner's values and work to meet those values.

Be prepared to stand up for your partner when they are not able to do it themselves.

Tell your partner of your news, and successes as they

happen.

Show you support your partner emotionally.

Demonstrate your trust in your partner. You can do this by confiding in them.

Be prepared to offer and give help.

Make your partner feel liked, loved, special, important, valued, needed and wanted.

Be caring, honest and loyal.

Demonstrate empathy and understanding.

Listen to your partner and hear what they say.

Talk to your partner every day.

Tell your partner how you feel about them.

Find out how your partner wants to be loved and cared for.

Teach your partner how to love and care for you.

Work together through good and bad times.

Ask for help when you need it and accept it.

Surprise your partner! Amuse them, have fun with them and flirt with them often.

Discuss the state of your relationship.

Avoid taking anything for granted.

Include your partner. Involve them and allow them to influence, affect and love you.

Help your partner achieve their dreams.

From Ordinary to Extraordinary; How To Live an Exceptional Life published by Gill & Macmillan, €18.75

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